My husband, Eric, passed away four months before I signed up for coaching. I was really overwhelmed with the idea of solo parenting and figuring out how to do life without him. From my time coaching with Krista, I feel more present and able to enjoy the things that we have, because I'm not completely overwhelmed by being a solo parent. I can feel frustrated and let it flow through me without snapping or yelling. I don't lay in bed beating myself up and thinking about all the things that went wrong. There’s a sense of calm that wasn’t there before. I’ve learned that I’m strong. I’m capable of doing hard things and handling things calmly, with as much grace as possible. And I’m capable of making good decisions for myself and the girls.

Krista helped me slow down, look at my feelings and thoughts, and then figure out a path to get where I want to go. Whenever I feel stuck or overwhelmed, she coached me on how everything can be figured out. The takeaway is that I can relax into uncertainty. That feels a little scary, but mostly it feels empowering. Krista helps me slow down and locate myself in a compassionate, objective way. She is helping me lean into uncomfortable feelings in order to have the life that I want.

I’ve always been a joyful person, but I became so angry after my husband died. I would yell at my kids for normal stuff, like spilling milk or getting dirt on their clothes. I knew that wasn’t the life I wanted, because I would feel so horrible afterward. But in the moment, I couldn’t stop. Krista told me to think of my thoughts like a platter. I have lots of options, and I can pick and choose how I want to respond to any situation. So now, instead of allowing myself to explode, I take a second and think, “Okay, they just spilled water. What do I want to do here? What do I want to say?” I’m much more calm and peaceful than before – and my kids are, too! Coaching with Krista is truly life changing. I know I can’t go back in time, but I wish I had done it sooner. I floundered for three and a half years after Todd died, just barely surviving. Now I actually like my life! Even though Todd is not here, I like the rest of it. It’s all thanks to Krista and the things she teaches.

I lost my husband to suicide in December of 2018. The first year or so was a blur. I was in shock and I busying myself, doing a great job of avoiding my feelings. A year and a half after he died, I found The Widowed Mom Podcast and thought to myself, “Okay, Krista gets it. She is going to help me.” When I learned about coaching with Krista, I was curious. Through coaching with Krista, I really have grown so much, feel so supported, and have gained some really powerful tools.

I love having step-by-step tools that I know I have the power to use to make things better for myself! I started coaching with Krista thinking I needed to find some big purpose so my life would have meaning and happiness. I now am more clear on my purpose and values, I have learned my purpose is to just live my life and I am happier with my everyday choices, changing my thought to “I want to” instead of “I should or I need to” has helped me enjoy the little everyday things. I have more self-confidence, making decisions is easier and I love the thought there is no right or wrong decision. I am more curious about trying new things knowing the worse thing that can happen are feelings. I know with certainty that I can do hard things and that I can have a happy future. I feel proud of myself and very hopeful for the future.