Wishing you could love your life again, even though your partner died?
But also not wanting to settle for a “new normal” you didn’t ask for?
If this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place and my Mom Goes On program is just what you’ve been looking for.
After my husband, Hugo, was killed by a drunk driver when I was 40, I found myself in a grief plateau. I was no longer curled up in the fetal position and had gone back to work. But I didn’t feel as strong as everyone was telling me I looked… instead, I felt robotic, hollow and worried that my best days were behind me. I wanted to love life again but I didn’t know how.
Fortunately I discovered life coaching and Post Traumatic Growth. The tools were so powerful that I decided to devote my career to helping other widows genuinely love their lives again, too. None of us need to settle for a “new normal” that’s less than what we want and that includes you!
Designed exclusively for widowed moms, Mom Goes On offers a proven process, grounded in cognitive behavioral science and Post Traumatic Growth, to help you uncover what’s holding you back so you can genuinely love your life again even as a widow.
Unfortunately, most widows are taught that the best we can hope for is to “bounce back” and find a new normal. But through the science of Post Traumatic Growth and Positive Neural Plasticity, experts now know that we can leverage our loss to “bounce forward.”
We can use our whole life experience, especially the hard parts, to create a future that is even more of what we want… our relationships can become deeper and more meaningful, we can become more in touch with who we are and what we value… we can actually create more satisfying lives BECAUSE of our loss, not in spite of it.
This is what’s possible for you in Mom Goes On.
When you join Mom Goes On, you’ll learn a completely different way of approaching emotions so you can become someone who navigates even the most challenging emotions to create the life she wants.
We’ll walk you through our proven process, step by step, so you feel confident and excited about your future. We’ll redesign your beliefs about yourself, your future, and systematically remove anything that’s in the way of loving your life again.
The work we’ll do together in Mom Goes On will also benefit your children and every single relationship in your life. If you have little ones, you’ll become confident in your parenting knowing you’re raising resilient, independent children. And if your children are grown, you’ll know how to navigate their opinions about how you should live your life and how to find the balance of supporting them emotionally in a way that feels healthy for you.
You’ll be certain of your ability to make any kind of decision on your own and empowered to create anything you want. Your relationships with others will seem easier because you’ll know exactly why they aren’t working and what to do about it. Whether you’re dating again or contemplating it, you’ll know you can be happy either way.
You’ll know how to support yourself when you feel overwhelmed, how to stop people pleasing those who have opinions about your grief and life choices and have the skills you need to create any result that matters to you.
By the time you complete the Mom Goes On program, we will have examined every area of your life and you’ll be stronger, bolder and more self-assured than ever before. You’ll come out with a tool-kit that prepares you for challenges in the future and know how to coach yourself through whatever else comes your way.
My partner just died…
Many women join Mom Goes On shortly after the loss of their partner. They’re often worried they’ll “do grief wrong” (even though there really is no such thing, we promise) or they’re concerned they’ll get stuck in their grief and not make progress. As long as your widow fog is manageable enough that you’re able to follow along with the tools and exercises we provide, Mom Goes On is a powerful gift to give yourself as early as possible after your loss.
My partner has been gone for years…
One of the most common myths of grief is that “time heals” and this can be incredibly frustrating when time has passed and you still don’t feel better! If you’re tired of watching time pass and not making the progress you’d like, you’re not alone and Mom Goes On can help!
I have young children…
Managing your grief while solo parenting and helping your children manage their grief is daunting at best. And while it’s easy to put your own needs aside and focus on your children, it’s a terrible long term strategy. Grief is a marathon, not a sprint and as cliché as it sounds, you must put the oxygen mask on yourself first. Mom Goes On will give you what you need so you can be at your best and feel confident about raising them. And it’s designed with a busy solo mom’s schedule in mind and full of other widowed moms who “get it” when no one else in your world does.
My children are grown…
Once a mom, always a mom. And while the challenges of solo parenting adult children are different from parenting young children, they aren’t necessarily any easier. Mom Goes On will help you improve your relationships with family members you care about, regardless of whether they live with you or have children of their own.
The program is powerful and one-of-a-kind. If you are honest and apply what we teach, you will be amazed at how you can change your life for the better! Our most successful clients are those who WANT to see changes in their lives and are willing to take action to make that happen. If you have a history of starting strong but not finishing, don’t worry, you aren’t alone! Learning to be a strong finisher is something we teach in Mom Goes On.
We get it. Some people just want to talk about how awful it is to be a widow. This program is not about perpetual pity-parties. We believe in acknowledging that it’s hard and then deciding to be women who do hard things. Mom Goes On members join because they aren’t willing to let their loss define them. That said, all emotions are welcome and it’s ok if you cry. We’re just not going to stay stuck in the sadness.
We’ve designed this program with busy moms in mind. And because of that, we give lots of options for support. Just like you don’t try to watch every show on Netflix, you don’t need to do everything inside our program. You’ll pick and choose what works for your schedule and focus on the aspects of grief and growth that matter to you.
Members who are most successful carve out 20-30 minutes in their calendars 5 days a week to invest in themselves and complete the application activities in the program.
We hear you and many widows have the same concern. For this reason, everyone signs a confidentiality agreement. This program has been running since 2019 and there has never been a privacy complaint or issue. We do our best to ensure that what happens in Mom Goes On, stays in Mom Goes On.
No, all moms are welcome in Mom Goes On. The average member has children at home or in college but many members have grown children and even grandchildren.
Losing your parter to suicide is complicated and we have coached many widows through the nuances of healing after a suicide loss.
Mom Goes On was designed for busy moms. That’s why all coaching calls are recorded so you can watch them when it’s convenient for you. To make sure you get the support you need, we provide online asynchronous coaching inside an app you can carry with you on your smartphone. We also teach you how to apply the coaching lessons other women are getting in the group to your own life (even when their stories are different than yours) so you feel like you got coached even when you didn’t.
It’s not cheap, and that’s by design. The women who get the most from this program are the ones who don’t just pay and expect magic to happen… they participate! It’s the difference between paying a little for a gym membership you never use and investing more in a personal trainer so you’ll actually get results.
We want to make sure we only offer women spots in the program when they are ready. If depression is unmanaged or widow fog is too intense, the program would not be helpful and we want to set widows up for success! (See the checklists above to know if you’re ready for the program.)
No, and here’s why… Group coaching is more powerful than one-on-one coaching. The human brain tends to be a bit resistant when we are being coached one-on-one. But when we’re watching someone else get coached, our brain is less defensive and better able to receive the coaching. Even better, many widows think there’s something wrong with them and in a group we make progress faster because you’ll see that you’re not alone and there’s nothing wrong with you. Then we can get to the good stuff so you can fall in love with your life again.
We are an inclusive community. If you identify as a woman and a widow, you are welcome in Mom Goes On.
Many women join the program having had challenging relationships. Some were even separated or divorced at the time of their partner’s death. This can make grief and healing more complex. Regardless of the type of the challenges you faced while they were living, Mom Goes On can help!