Welcome, Widowed Mom…
Do people keep telling you how “strong you are” but you aren’t feeling so strong?
Or maybe you’re hearing you can “grow through your grief” but you don’t know what that actually means or how to do it?
Maybe you’re where I was, secretly worried that your best days are behind you but also not wanting to settle for a “new normal” you didn’t ask for?
If this sounds familiar, you’re in the right place and I have so much to teach you!
As a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow and mom, my Mom Goes On program offers a proven process, grounded in the cognitive science of Post Traumatic Growth, to help you uncover what’s holding you back and create a future you can actually look forward to.
You see, scientists have now discovered that loss can actually be a catalyst for growth and a source of resilience and strength. Multiple studies have proven even severe trauma and loss can inspire people to grow, evolve, and create lives that are strengthened by their experiences.
What does that mean for you?
Your partner’s death doesn’t have to limit your happiness.
Any widow can truly love life again and that includes you!
A Future You Can Look Forward To
If I hadn’t done it myself, I probably wouldn’t believe it was possible.
I was only 40 when my husband died and didn’t know anyone else my age who had gone through something like this.
I had a community of friends who wanted to help but no one who really understood.
Maybe you can you relate?
Many of the widows I work with are frustrated with the amount of money they’ve spent on therapy and think they should be farther along than they are, or feel like they’ve reached a plateau and aren’t making the kind of progress they’d like. They worry that feeling sad and lonely is the “new normal” they’re supposed to settle for. They’re tired of hearing people tell them how strong they are because they’re just doing the best they can and don’t feel strong or understood.
While therapy was a great start for me and a useful way to process trauma and feel heard, the techniques and strategies we offer in life coaching teach you how to move forward into a life you can actually enjoy. Working with me inside Mom Goes On will show you how to use what happened to lift you up, instead of holding you back.
Worried you can’t – or maybe shouldn’t – change how you feel? Mom Goes On will help you overcome the natural self-doubt, worry, anxiety and other unique challenges widows experience trying to navigate life alone, parenting solo, making decisions on their own, feeling overwhelmed and worried about their future.
Designed exclusively for widowed moms (whether your kids are little or grown), Mom Goes On helps you create the future you want but don’t fully believe is possible.
It’s the program I wish I could have found after Hugo died. But since it didn’t exist, I’ve created it for you.
What you’ll learn
When you join Mom Goes On, you’ll learn a completely different way of approaching emotions so you can stop trying to avoid negative feelings and become someone who navigates even the most challenging emotions to create the life she wants.
We’ll walk you through my proven process, step by step so that you come out of the program feeling confident and excited about your future.
We’re going to redesign your beliefs about yourself, your future, and systematically remove anything that’s in your way of loving your life again.
The work we’ll do together in Mom Goes On will also benefit your children and every single relationship in your life. You’ll become confident in your parenting, knowing you’re raising resilient, independent children. You’ll be certain of your ability to make any kind of decision on your own and empowered to create anything you want.
Your relationships with others will seem easier because you’ll know exactly why they aren’t working and what to do about it. Whether you’re dating again or contemplating it, you’ll know you can be happy either way.
You’ll know how to support yourself when you feel overwhelmed, how to stop people pleasing those who have opinions about your grief and life choices and have the skills you need to create any result that matters to you.
By the time you complete the Mom Goes On program, we will have examined every area of your life and you’ll be stronger, bolder and more self-assured than ever before. You’ll come out with a tool-kit that prepares you for challenges in the future and know how to coach yourself through whatever else comes your way.
My husband, Eric, passed away four months before I signed up for coaching. Right after he died, I felt like I had to buckle down and make my girls’ childhood as good as possible. There was no hope for the future. It was survival. I was really overwhelmed with the idea of solo parenting and figuring out how to do life without him. I started looking into anything and everything people would suggest, and Mom Goes On was the first thing that felt concrete. From my time in Mom Goes On, I feel more present and able to enjoy the things that we have, because I'm not completely overwhelmed by being a solo parent. I don't know a single mother who doesn't get frustrated and upset with things that are going on in the house. But my reaction is very different now. I can feel frustrated and let it flow through me without snapping or yelling. I don't lay in bed beating myself up and thinking about all the things that went wrong. There’s a sense of calm that wasn’t there before. I’ve learned that I’m strong. I’m capable of doing hard things and handling things calmly, with as much grace as possible. And I’m capable of making good decisions for myself and the girls. If you’re thinking about joining Mom Goes On, just do it! Honestly, I didn't even know what to hope for when I joined Mom Goes On because I was so in the depths of grief. Now I feel so confident that I can be happy and I can love my life.
I was originally looking for a dating coach, but I wasn’t sure if they could help widows . . . and I wasn't sure I was ready to date. My colleague sent me Krista’s website and I thought, “This is perfect! A widowed mom coach!” I was drawn to her energy and enthusiasm. On the first call, Krista asked what I wanted in life. I have a big list of goals and I wanted to go, go, go all the time and bypass feelings, because I tend to think accomplishing things will resolve feelings. I didn't want to feel inadequate, ashamed, unseen, or unlovable. Krista is helping me slow down, look at my feelings and thoughts, and then figure out a path to get where I want to go. Whenever I feel stuck or overwhelmed, Krista coaches me on how everything can be figured out, and there’s nothing wrong with me if I’m feeling inadequate. And I don't have to shut down/stop taking action when I feel inadequate. All I need to know is the next right step. Krista always gives me these little gems of wisdom that I keep on sticky notes above my desk: “Security doesn't exist outside of me. If I'm emotionally looking out for me, I can feel safe.” The takeaway is that I can relax into uncertainty. That feels a little scary, but mostly it feels empowering. Krista helps me slow down and locate myself in a compassionate, objective way. She is helping me lean into uncomfortable feelings in order to have the life that I want.
I’ve always been a joyful person, but I became so angry after my husband died. I would just go crazy and yell at my kids for normal stuff, like spilling milk or getting dirt on their clothes. I knew that wasn’t the life I wanted, because I would feel so horrible afterward. But in the moment, I couldn’t stop. The words just came out. Krista told me to think of my thoughts like a platter. I have lots of options, and I can pick and choose how I want to respond to any situation. So now, instead of allowing myself to explode, I take a second and think, “Okay, they just spilled water. What do I want to do here? What do I want to say?” I don’t have to accept the messy emotions that flow in and out of me. I’m much more calm and peaceful than before – and my kids are, too! I’m taking control of life and making decisions that I want to make, instead of just letting things happen. I'm extremely introverted, and when Krista first told me it’s group coaching, I wasn't sure if I would be comfortable sharing with so many people. But the group is actually a benefit. You feed off other people, and you can see things easier in somebody else than yourself. I love having a community of people who understand what I’m going through. Mom Goes On is truly life changing, not only for you, but for all the people around you. I know I can’t go back in time, but I wish I had done it sooner. I floundered for three and a half years after Todd died, just barely surviving. And now I actually like my life! Even though Todd is not here, I like the rest of it. It’s all thanks to Krista and the things she teaches.
I lost my husband to suicide in December of 2018. The first year or so was a blur. It was very sudden and unexpected. I was in shock and I busying myself, doing a great job of avoiding all of my feelings. About a year and a half after he died, I found The Widowed Mom Podcast and I thought to myself, “Okay, Krista gets it. She is going to help me.” When I learned of the Mom Goes On program, I was curious. At first, I was a little bit skeptical of the group setting, as I didn't want to be lost in a crowd and I really needed her help. What I discovered was that being in a group is like finding a bunch of new best friends that you have this terrible thing common with, and you help each other through each step, day-by-day. What I’ve gained from it is learning from other people’s questions and coaching. There are topics that I think, “Oh, that probably won’t apply to me,” but it turns out they all apply to me. And we don't only cover grief, but we talk about things like parenting, dating and real life. I really have grown so much, feel so supported, and have gained some really powerful tools. Mom Goes On is a great way to get your life back. And I love it so much, I signed up again for Mom Goes On Masters!
How it works
- The Mom Goes On Group Coaching program is 6 months long, so we have plenty of time to move through the areas where you are stuck so you can truly start loving life again.
- It’s convenient and entirely online so you can participate and go through materials in a way that works best for you and your busy schedule no matter what time zone you live in.
- Lots of live coaching opportunities – You’ll have the opportunity to attend two live group coaching calls each week via Zoom. Can’t attend live? Don’t worry… all calls are recorded so you benefit even when you can’t be there in person.
- Experience the power of group coaching – Not only will you get help from me and my coaches directly, but you’ll feel like you got coached even when all you did was watch another participant’s coaching. Members feel connected, understood and supported.
- Along with weekly calls, we have an online community just for members of the Mom Goes On program where you can receive unlimited coaching between calls.
- Our online community is incredibly supportive and helps you connect with other widowed moms who get it. Even better, it can be accessed through your computer or an app on your phone, (It’s like having a coach and a team of cheerleaders in your pocket!)
- We make learning tools easy with weekly bite-sized videos you’ll watch when it’s convenient for you and include 6 Monthly workbooks delivered to you so you can apply what you’re learning
- Lifetime access to the call recordings, program videos and materials
You’re a great fit for Mom Goes On if:
- You’re functioning at a basic level: If you worked, you have returned to the office; you’re not spending all day in bed; you probably look normal to other people who don’t know you well.
- Even though people might say you’re doing great, you still feel hollow or empty inside.
- You’re looking for tools beyond what you may have received in therapy.
- You’re excited at the idea of creating a future you can look forward to, even if you’re not sure you believe it’s possible.
You’re NOT QUITE READY for Mom Goes On if:
- You’re struggling to get out of bed and take care of basic hygiene
- You’re having serious thoughts of harming yourself or others
- You have a diagnosis that’s not being managed by the appropriate licensed mental health professional
- Your widow fog is so intense that watching a 15 minute video or spending 20 minutes on a guided self-reflection exercise overwhelms you
- You want to talk about how awful it is to be a widow but aren’t ready to take action to improve your life
- You aren’t willing to make yourself a priority
Perhaps you’re wondering…
Q: Will it work for me?
A: The program is powerful and one-of-a-kind. If you actively participate (not just pay and disappear), you will be amazed at how you can change your life for the better. If you have a history of starting but not finishing, don’t worry, you aren’t alone! Learning to be a strong finisher is something we teach in Mom Goes On.
Q: Is the group depressing?
A: We get it. Some people just want to talk about how awful it is to be a widow. This program is not about perpetual pity-parties. We believe in acknowledging that it’s hard and then deciding to be women who do hard things. Mom Goes On members join because they aren’t willing to let their loss define them. That said, all emotions are welcome and it’s ok if you cry. We’re just not going to stay stuck in the sadness.
Q: How much time does it take?
A: We’ve designed this program with busy moms in mind. And because of that, we give lots of options for support. Just like you don’t try to watch every show on Netflix, you don’t need to do everything inside our program. You’ll pick and choose what works for your schedule and focus on the aspects of grief and growth that matter to you.
Members who are most successful carve out 20-30 minutes in their calendars 5 days a week to invest in themselves and complete the application activities in the program.
Q: What if I don’t have time?
A: Honestly (and you can count on honesty in this program), “I don’t have time” is a lie your brain is telling you. We make time for what’s important. And if your future happiness is important, you’re going to have to stop believing your brain’s story about how much time you don’t have. We know that the widowed mom journey is demanding, and with that in mind, Mom Goes On makes every effort to provide teaching and support in the most succinct way possible. We give you everything you need and nothing more.
Q: I’m worried about sharing personal details. What about privacy?
A: We hear you and many widows have the same concern. For this reason, everyone signs a confidentiality agreement. This program has been running since 2019 and there has never been a privacy complaint or issue. We do our best to ensure that what happens in Mom Goes On, stays in Mom Goes On.
Q: Do I have to have young children?
A: No, all moms are welcome in Mom Goes On. The average member has children at home or in college but many members have grown children and even grandchildren.
Q: Do you offer refunds?
A: We are so confident in our program that we offer a 100% money back guarantee. However, that doesn’t mean you can pay and not actually show up. If you aren’t willing to do the work and be coached, this program isn’t for you.
Q: I work all day. What if I can't make the calls?
A: Mom Goes On was designed for busy moms. That’s why all coaching calls are recorded so you can watch them when it’s convenient for you. To make sure you get the support you need, we provide online asynchronous coaching inside an app you can carry with you on your smartphone. We also teach you how to apply the coaching lessons other women are getting in the group to your own life (even when their stories are different than yours) so you feel like you got coached even when you didn’t.
Q: Why is it such a significant investment?
A: It’s not cheap, and that’s by design. The women who get the most from this program are the ones who don’t just pay and expect magic to happen… they participate! It’s the difference between paying a little for a gym membership you never use and investing more in a personal trainer so you’ll actually get results.
Q: Why is there an application process?
A: We want to make sure we only offer women spots in the program when they are ready. If depression is unmanaged or widow fog is too intense, the program would not be helpful and we want to set widows up for success! (See the checklists above to know if you’re ready for the program.)
Q: I was hoping to work with you one-on-one. Is that an option?
A: No, and here’s why… Group coaching is more powerful than one-on-one coaching. The human brain tends to be a bit resistant when we are being coached one-on-one. But when we’re watching someone else get coached, our brain is less defensive and better able to receive the coaching. Even better, many widows think there’s something wrong with them and in a group we make progress faster because you’ll see that you’re not alone and there’s nothing wrong with you. Then we can get to the good stuff so you can fall in love with your life again.
Q: What if my partner was a female?
A: We are an inclusive community. If you identify as a woman and a widow, you are welcome in Mom Goes On.